Divorced at Age 50's cause Love was fade

If the kids are grown and independent then retirement age arrives, for many couples it's time to enjoy life again means alone together.

But, for the generation of 'baby boom' in particular in the UK, their 50s were followed by the number of petition for divorce.

Surveys in the UK showed that most divorce from couples who are aged over 50 years cause loss of love, intimacy, and sex drive is down between couples, according to the Daily Mail quoted.

The poll showed that 28 percent of the respondents involved stated that they divorced because their spouses are emotionally cold and distant. 25 percent said it had lost sexual interest in their partner.

Some 27 percent of couples have other reasons which are no longer committed to the wedding.

The main reason for the male partner to end was the loss of passionate sex marriage on the couple. A third of male respondents admitted it. As for women, above all, their husbands are now cooler.

In addition, one of the factors that cause 14 percent of divorce's respondents are nagging. Instead, ten percent of respondents said they no longer have the topics to be discussed.

Agency UK statistics reveal that the divorce rate in couples aged over 50 years peaked in 2004 with about 25,000 divorces a year before finally falling to 22,000 divorces.

The experts believe that many couples are still together just to raise their children. When their child has their own and began to rethink their future.

In addition to several reasons earlier, financial factors also affect the marriage because nine percent of respondents said they divorced because the couple no longer able to meet their financial needs. While eight percent said their partner spends too much money.

Another factor is a family problem. Five percent of respondents said they were waiting for their adult children and then divorced again while four percent said that divorce is caused by parents or their in-laws.

The work also could lead to divorce. Eight percent of respondents said the work to make marriage a mess while five percent even suspect that their partner was having an affair with co-workers.

The survey was organized by the 'Saga', a company that specializes products for people over the age of 50 years. The survey involved 1900 respondents aged 50 years or older and have been divorced.

"Many women aged 50 and over begin to see labih many opportunities for them than when they were married," said Christine Northam, a Relate counselor from, an organization that cares about the relationships within the family.

"The longer a couple live together, even the less they know about each other." The scientists drew that conclusion after asking every couple of favorite foods, movies, and favorite kitchen appliances.

In the three questions that couples who have been together for 40 years made the mistake most answers than those who only two years together.

"One possible reason is the older partner is not giving enough attention to each other because they think they have a strong relationship or because they think they already know their partners well," Dr. Benjamin Scheibehenne review of the University of Basel, Switzerland, in the Journal of Consumer Psychology.

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Talk about Divided Soul

Now has over 100 years since French psychiatrist, Emil Kraepelin, describing mental disorders by Swiss scientist, Paul Eugen Bleuler (1857-1939), named for schizophrenia, but schizophrenia remains mystery.

The word schizophrenia is rooted in Greek, schizein (split) and phren-(mind). In Indonesia, schizophrenia including the most extreme mental disorder sufferers. Ministry of Health through the Health Research Association in 2007 noted, people with extreme mental disorders 0.46 percent of the national population.

Schizophrenia allegedly suffered by 6-19 persons per 1,000 population. If the total Indonesian population of 200 million people, no less than 1.2 million people suffering from schizophrenia.
It took a long time until diagnosis of schizophrenia. For Iman (45), that means 20 years. At that time they was a student of Jakarta Teachers' Training College (now State University of Jakarta). One day, Iman arguing with one of his teachers. Since then, Iman could not even sleep spicing for two days. "I do not accept the opinion of that professor. I attempt to read scripture and listen to sermons in the event of religious pulpit to steady himself, but does not work. I am cranky and irritable, "he said.
Iman relatives bring it to a general practitioner who then referred to a hospital other. "I entered the psychiatric and treated one month," they explained.
Iman continues to take medication. "I wonder why you ought to continue taking medication. Years later, I know that my schizophrenia, "he said. two times missed taking medication, the head of Iman began to hurt. Another time, after reading the Book of Revelation, Iman satisfied they is one of the apostles. they was positive about to be killed.Other signs, delusions or delusions, which is not in accordance with the contents of the mind remain confident despite the fact that it's been shown proof that his thoughts are wrong. Suppose that person believes they is the messenger of God.

Schizophrenia signs are not common. Specialist Doctors Association president Dr Tun Psychiatry Indonesia Kurniasih Bastaman SpKJ say, the signs of schizophrenia include hallucinations, sensory perception is wrong and there is no stimulus, such as hearing voices when no one speaking, seeing things, smelling, tasting, feeling there is a creeping skin that does not exist in point of fact.

So far, it is believed that disorders associated neuro chemical imbalance substance that functions as a neurotransmitter in the brain. The human brain consists of billions of cells that connect and communicate. Stimulation of a cell will produce a neurotransmitter that will stimulate other cells. One of the neurotransmitter dopamine is active in the area of the brain that acts to regulate emotions or limbic technique.

Luni who live with schizophrenia often see ghosts pocong and dark shadows. they was treated and studied religious discipline, but it remains difficult to eliminate the illusion. "I need to eliminate my fear of seeing a ghost," said Luni, at a gathering of the Community take care of Schizophrenia Indonesia a while ago.

In schizophrenia, the dopamine technique is overactive dopamine release. Now the researchers also saw the production of glutamate. However, it's not been answered fully the causes of schizophrenia.

Tun said, "Schizophrenia associated with the interaction of two factors: factor organo-biological, psycho-educational factors, and socio-cultural factors. Organobiologic factor is genetic factors and mechanisms of brain neurotransmitters, one hypothesis is hiperdopaminergic, "said Tun. Psycho-educational factors related to relatives upbringing, ie hard sister, sister is weak.

Events that do not suppress or evoke a sense of quiet and disappointments in life trigger, such as interpersonal relations (an argument with anybody close), environmental changes (moving a residence), and changes in the economy (bankrupt).

Socio-cultural factor is the norm and value systems in an surroundings where people live who can be a source of stress. Director of Mental Health Services Ministry of Health as well as psychiatric specialists, Irmansyah, argued, several other factors thought to contribute to risk factors, including complications in the course of childbirth, infections in the womb, a history of head trauma, stress, and traumatic experiences and the influence of drug abuse psychotropic (drugs).

Irmansyah said the objective of treatment is to control the signs of schizophrenia, allowing patients to live normal and active in every day activities in the community.

Recovery

"Misunderstanding causes schizophrenia is associated with the occult so that sometimes the patient was taken to" smart people ". When was desperate and the doctors, his condition was more extreme, "said Irmansyah.

The cause is the reluctance of other medication side effects of drugs that affect other systems in the brain that may cause tremors.

Tun asserted, schizophrenia ought to be treated. Patient care in an alternative route or without drugs can not be justified. Scientific information to prove, the more rapid and exact patient treated, the result is better. People with schizophrenia need to be re-socializing. The role of relatives and community post-rehabilitation important to reduce recurrence.

"The relatives and the surroundings need to generate a nice situation for relatives of schizophrenia are not prone disturbed," said Bagus Utomo, whose sister fell ill with schizophrenia. nice with relatives, people with schizophrenia, and observers of Indonesia established the Community take care of Schizophrenia. "So to understand what they experience, they're more wise," they said.

With controlled conditions, those who have recovered can be productive and generate. At this time, Iman became salesman in a pest control company. Social life also improved. they was in a relationship with a woman. Without doubt, Iman explains that they experienced issues, which have been understood.

By Indira Permanasari & Nawa Tunggal
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